The Fear … The Fear

Fear, like pain, is often a good thing. It’s normal to be afraid of dangerous creatures, such as funnel web spiders. It’s only when fear is out of proportion, and gets in the way of life and living, that it becomes a negative emotion.

Some people are afraid of all insects, and all spiders. Even a spider behind glass, a dead spider, is an object of terror for them. This is called a phobia. I had a huntsman spider (fortunately not a funnel-web) run up and down my legs and thighs recently when taking in the washing, and I remained calm, partly for my young grandson’s sake, who was nearby at the time.

However, having to walk into a room full of people I don’t know is still anxiety provoking for me. What is it about social phobia that is so hard to overcome? For some people it reaches a level that is pathological. Sixty percent of people who stutter avoid speaking and become socially phobic as a result of their fear of having to communicate. This is akin to a mental illness;  the stutterer’s life is limited by this fear of communicating verbally.

It is avoidance that is often central to phobias. Cognitive behaviour therapists in this country have many strategies to assist sufferers. These often include gentle, continued exposure to the source of fear over time, whether it be flying, socialising, making speeches, or  asking questions in group situations.

A very recent perspective on phobias is to link them all to the underlying fear of death. See this interesting conversation on this topic at http://theconversation.com/fear-of-death-underlies-most-of-our-phobias-57057

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Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) is the preferred approach today for tackling phobias in this country. Medication, combined with talk therapy, for cases of anxiety and clinical depression has superseded the widespread use of psychoanalysis compared to before. Powerful drugs are available for serious mental illnesses, such as bipolar and schizophrenia, almost untreatable by doctors in the past. However, many personality disorders are resistant to today’s CBT approaches. Sufferers might benefit more from a return to an in-depth psychoanalytical type approach.

There are so many things to fear in life. And so many diverse sources of fear for different people. Shyness in childhood may be  a symptom of anxiety in young children. It’s quite common between the ages of four and seven. But some of us get stuck at around that age—often through traumatic past events—and are left with residual fear and anxiety that can develop into social phobia later on. This is more likely to happen in adolescence, when hormones are swirling around in the body and mind.

8 Comments
  • William Skyvington (@Skyvington)
    Posted at 02:34h, 12 September Reply

    I’m forcing myself to make friends with a small family of bats that have set up their home in my cellar. They’re totally harmless, of course, and their navigational system is so extraordinary that they’re unlikely to crash into my head. Objective thinking based upon facts is the best therapy I know.

    • Anne Skyvington
      Posted at 10:20h, 13 September Reply

      That fits in perfectly with your personality. I now believe that we’re all fully formed in temperament when we’re born. What changes is our personality, as we experience different socio/environmental effects, which may change us in certain ways. You’ve always been that same little boy, seeking out answers to the world in a logical way.

  • dinadavis2015
    Posted at 10:20h, 12 September Reply

    I can relate to this, having suffered arachnophobia all my life. Your picture of the funnel-web caused my heart to race in terror. If I’d had your experience with the huntsman I’d have screamed or fainted in spite of a grandchild. Aversion therapy seems too cruel to me, but am trying to overcome this crippling fear by meditating.

    • Anne Skyvington
      Posted at 10:14h, 13 September Reply

      That’s a great idea, Dina. For me the spiritual approach works for almost everything. But it’s taken a long while to find it, Spirite, I mean. My mother-in-law used to say, “You can’t put an old head on young shoulders.” Only now I know what she meant: it sometimes takes wisdom to find the right path for you.

  • IAN WELLS
    Posted at 20:38h, 23 May Reply

    I suffer from Musophobia which is the fear of rats and mice, a specific phobia triggered by encountering a rat (mice not so much). I recognise that like all phobias this fear is irrational on some level, but that doesn’t make my anxiety any less real. I recall a rat-loving pupil reeling back in horror when I told her my favourite rat was only a few millimetres tall but very, very broad or wide.

  • IAN WELLS
    Posted at 18:49h, 23 June Reply

    When I was a small child we lived only fifty metres or so from a swampy area of land between Lady Robinson Beach and Moorefield racecourse at Kogarah. There was a water course, reed beds and extensive wildlife, a great (but forbidden!) playground. Our local shop was on O’Connell Street, a road that backed onto the swamp. The parents of a mate of mine owned the shop and had a terrible time with vermin from the swamp entering their house and shop after food. They set traps but to little avail. Some of the traps even disappeared. One time, in exasperation, they set a rabbit trap and woke to hear a strange banging sound. A large bush rat had been caught by the leg and climbed the stove pipe to escape into the ceiling space, but the trap was too large for the gap and was banging on the stove pipe and ceiling. I saw and heard the racket a bit later that morning and witnessed the end. Once killed it proved to be a monster. I’ve been terrified of rats ever since.

    • Anne Skyvington
      Posted at 20:42h, 23 June Reply

      Being afraid of rats is not a bad thing, as they can carry disease. Phobias and fears only need to be addressed if they are interfering with your day-to-day existence. I think not, in your case. What I find strange are the phobias where there is no connection between the object of one’s fear and a past incident. The fear seems to be inherited, carried in the person’s genes. Fear of spiders—arachnophobia—is often like this, when the person has a panic attack if they believe the area could harbour spiders or if they see webs. Even a picture of a spider can trigger extreme fear, palpitations, sweating and screaming.

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